Often we get caught up in the everyday humdrum of life and we stop thinking about what we are actually doing. This can when done properly make your life easier, as the decision process is totally bypassed BUT it can also mean that you are missing cues that something needs to change.
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Think of something that annoys you on a regular basis. It could be that every time you go to leave the house, you have to hunt for your car keys. Research shows that we spend on average, 7 minutes looking for a misplaced item, one misplaced item a day for a year, that is a whopping 42.5 hours! That is basically a whole weekend you are wasting, looking for your keys (or misplaced object of your choice!)
That is crazy pants!
Remember to stop.
Next time you are looking for something you have misplaced, something that goes missing on a regular basis, STOP. Then ask yourself, how can I fix this? What can I do differently because if I keep doing this I’m going to drive myself (and possibly your loved ones too) crazy!
Give items that go missing a home, have a hook for your keys, a basket for your phone…
Make it easy! Think about when you put the keys down, what is your routine? How can you easily put a home for your keys into that routine?
Then pop up a post-it note to remind you to do it!
Simplify Your Closet
Many of us have waaaay too many things in our wardrobe, to the extent that there are items in there that never see the light of day. Also, a lot of people buy items of clothing but don’t consider the rest of the wardrobe when they do so. This often means that you end up with a skirt that can only be worn with one of two tops or a jacket that only looks good with one style of pants.
Not only is this way of buying wasteful but it also makes decision making more difficult. Now there are a lot of famous and successful people who have their own self-imposed uniform, Mark Zuckerburg, Steve Jobs, Einstein… and they all say the same thing. It is one less thing to make a decision about.
We might not be up there with ole Zuck but we still have a lot of decision to make throughout the day, and if cutting down on that process works for them, it can work for us too.
I’m a punk chick, I know what I like and what I am comfortable in, I work for myself so I can wear whatever the f*ck I like! This suits me down to the ground. And yes, I also have a self-imposed uniform, black jeans, black, grey, white tops, undies, all the same, I bulk buy sets when got back to the UK and fancy socks. What? I live in Japan, home to ridiculous socks.
If I’m working at home I live in yoga pants and sloppy t-shirts.
When I get dressed it is EASY, undies, all match, no ferreting around trying to find the matching bra. All my tops go with black jeans so it doesn’t matter which one I pull out. The biggest decision is which necklace to wear!
I know you might need to wear clothes fitting a certain description but you can still do the same thing. Look at building a capsule wardrobe or mix and match your tops and bottoms. This way, you get more wear out of your clothes, less waste and it makes the decision process easier.
Go through your closet and get rid of anything that makes you feel blah, anything ill-fitting, old, out of style or holey. Only keep the clothes you feel good in.
Often women are not great at this or it is something they have to work at. Women are people pleasers and so we say Yes to things when we should be saying no. If you get this under control it will help bring down the stress levels and you will start saying yes to the things you want to say yes to which has the knock-on effect of making you feel good. Rather than saying yes to things that you don’t want to do and feeling shitty about it.
Start with baby steps because saying no is difficult. Say no to the extra cookie or an offer of tea and build up to the bigger things. Make NO your first reaction, decide no and then when you have thought about it and know that it is really something you want to do, say yes. If that is too hard, again break it down and say “I’ll have to think about it and get back to you” which gives you some wriggle room.
If you need a bit more persuasion that this is the right thing to do, then think about the example you are setting your kids. It is much healthier for them to see a mom who says Yes when she wants to rather than Yes to everyone. Because when you are in control of the decision making you are happier, less stressed and give off a more confident and strong persona, isn’t that what you want you kids to grow up like? They learn from your examples.
As always if you have any questions, pop over The Moms That Rock group or leave me a comment.
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