Life ~ Work balance, it’s utter rubbish
And to all the gurus and coaches out there that push it. What a load of old codswallop, as if us moms don’t have enough to contend with we are then brainwashed into thinking that yes “We can have it all, balance life, kids and work – oh look at me! It’s so easy!”
Poppycock, all of it! Makes me so ANGRY.
When I hear balance, my brain conjures up an image of myself as a large (not too large) set of scales. With work balanced on the left and family and home on the right.
What is wrong with this picture is that life isn’t like that and what’s worse is that if my hands are full with work and family… What about ME!
I’m stuck in the middle with my hands full!
Some may say that sounds selfish but it’s not, I’m just as important – if not more, than work and family and home.
“Get the life ~ work balance thing down and you will be happy”
Really? I mean REALLY?
I don’t believe we can ever achieve balance because that’s not how life or humans work. I prefer to think of it more like the tides, ebbs and flows.
Sometimes we are pulled towards work, whether it be looming deadlines or suddenly extra projects coming in, other times we are pulled towards family, start of the school year, birthdays, family trips. I like to picture myself on a comfy lilo with a tropical cocktail, in my hand as I float from side to the other.
Imagining life as these tides that flow back and forth makes far more sense, it’s more calming and more practical!
These tides can be applied through the day as you move from home to work to home again. They also work on a bigger scale through the year, busy periods at work and summer holidays, bigger ebbs and flows.
Of course, sometimes you feel like you are being pulled in both directions, work needs your attention as does your family but instead of one side of the scales crashing to the floor you are being pulled thinner, stretching yourself.
The other thing we need to consider…
Is our energy, this also plays a big role in how we handle things and how much time we need to do something. Somedays we almost bounce out of bed, it feels like we are on fire, checking off items on the to-do list like it’s going out of fashion. Then other days we have to peel ourselves out of the bed and making a cuppa needs all the energy we can muster.
This is often linked in with our menstrual cycles as our energy waxes and wanes and can sometimes be contributed to certain little people in the house waking us up!
So stop trying balance everything, you know it will end in disaster, and instead float with the tides – (re-reading this it does sound like I have a had a double dose of woo-woo juice for breakfast! But I stand by it!) Going with the flow rather than trying to keep all the balls in the air, see it feels better already doesn’t it?
Woo-woo aside you know I am a deeply practical person and believe wholeheartedly that we can make our dreams happen if we apply ourselves and not run ourselves ragged, that we need to look after ourselves first so that we can look after everyone else.
This is one of the main points of focus in The Kaizen Revolution, my membership site for moms. If we want to run a successful business and get shit done, then we need to do it without burning out or burning up with mama guilt right? If you are interested in joining us, check it out HERE